Self-Sabotage: What It Is And Why You Can Stop It
It's easy to forget just how powerful our subconscious minds can be. We are often completely unaware of how our actions (or inaction) are affecting our lives. We may complain that things never work out for us, we always seem to have bad luck, or we just don't have what it takes to be successful.
But what many people fail to realize is that they are actually creating their own circumstances through subconscious self-sabotage (so in other words they have no idea they're actually creating their own problems).
But since our subconsciousness is just that, a subconsciousness, it's seemingly out of our control. But that's a fallacy. We can counter our subconscious self-sabotage by using our conscious awareness; we need to take a deeper look into how we feel and what we fear - but we have to do this on an intellectual level (which doesn't mean you need to be a genius by the way). By doing this we're able to pinpoint any reason for behaving that is counter-intuitive to our ambitions. Once we realize what the issue is, it's much easier to plan the next step in overcoming our self-sabotage. But in order to recognize the issue, we need to know exactly what happens we sabotage ourselves.
Many times people simply fail to consistency make an effort towards what they say they want. For example, when we want to lose weight, we start out with an unrealistic level of expectation and excitement and expect very good results in a short period of time. We try different diets and push really hard when doing exercise (if we do any at all!) But guess what happens when the pounds don't melt away on the first day, week or month? Guess when happens when we look in mirror and don't see a supermodel or body of an Adonis looking back? Yep, you guessed it. We give up. We don't work harder. We just throw in the towel instead. But what if this reaction is giving us some kind of excuse for failure? Maybe we say we want to lose weight but really we just want to try, fail and complain. It's easier than dieting and exercising! If you're saying you want to get trim, taut and traffic but you eat junk food and skip exercises then you're sabotaging. Simple as that. But it's easier to make excuses isn't it? Doing the hard work is always unappealing. That's why it's called "hard work!"
Those who self-sabotage may also be afraid of what others will think of them should they accomplish their goals. They might not believe they're worthy of the outcome, so they act in ways that will ensure their failure. These destructive efforts are done subconsciously, so even the saboteurs have fooled themselves into thinking they know what they want. If there is any uncertainty in their mind, any doubt, any fear, they will find a way to make sure it doesn't happen. Perhaps this describes you? Have you sabotaged yourself in the past? Are you still doing it now? Are you not able to move forward with your goals, no matter how hard you try?
Fortunately, anyone can overcome self-sabotage. The most important step to stopping self-sabotaging behavior is to recognize that it's happening (and that's not always easy!) So what's required is to develop a conscious awareness of our thoughts, emotions, and actions.
Have you been struggling with success? Do you feel like you can't just move forward with your goals or that things or people aren't moving with you? If you do, then take a step back and think. Evaluate what your goals are and what they mean to you. What were the efforts you made that are taking you towards your ambitions? And what actions are taking you away from your ambitions? Is anything or anyone hindering your success? Can you make better decisions in the future? What can you do to remove obstacles and improve your chances of success?
When we finally understand that we are in control of our own success, we will be set free from all limitations! By developing clarity and insight about the outcomes we want to create, and the awareness for potential setbacks, we can stop the self-sabotage and focus our energies on working toward new goals that we will fully support in every way. We will then look back one day and see that instead of being our own worst saboteur, we have become our best supporter.
But what many people fail to realize is that they are actually creating their own circumstances through subconscious self-sabotage (so in other words they have no idea they're actually creating their own problems).
But since our subconsciousness is just that, a subconsciousness, it's seemingly out of our control. But that's a fallacy. We can counter our subconscious self-sabotage by using our conscious awareness; we need to take a deeper look into how we feel and what we fear - but we have to do this on an intellectual level (which doesn't mean you need to be a genius by the way). By doing this we're able to pinpoint any reason for behaving that is counter-intuitive to our ambitions. Once we realize what the issue is, it's much easier to plan the next step in overcoming our self-sabotage. But in order to recognize the issue, we need to know exactly what happens we sabotage ourselves.
Many times people simply fail to consistency make an effort towards what they say they want. For example, when we want to lose weight, we start out with an unrealistic level of expectation and excitement and expect very good results in a short period of time. We try different diets and push really hard when doing exercise (if we do any at all!) But guess what happens when the pounds don't melt away on the first day, week or month? Guess when happens when we look in mirror and don't see a supermodel or body of an Adonis looking back? Yep, you guessed it. We give up. We don't work harder. We just throw in the towel instead. But what if this reaction is giving us some kind of excuse for failure? Maybe we say we want to lose weight but really we just want to try, fail and complain. It's easier than dieting and exercising! If you're saying you want to get trim, taut and traffic but you eat junk food and skip exercises then you're sabotaging. Simple as that. But it's easier to make excuses isn't it? Doing the hard work is always unappealing. That's why it's called "hard work!"
Those who self-sabotage may also be afraid of what others will think of them should they accomplish their goals. They might not believe they're worthy of the outcome, so they act in ways that will ensure their failure. These destructive efforts are done subconsciously, so even the saboteurs have fooled themselves into thinking they know what they want. If there is any uncertainty in their mind, any doubt, any fear, they will find a way to make sure it doesn't happen. Perhaps this describes you? Have you sabotaged yourself in the past? Are you still doing it now? Are you not able to move forward with your goals, no matter how hard you try?
Fortunately, anyone can overcome self-sabotage. The most important step to stopping self-sabotaging behavior is to recognize that it's happening (and that's not always easy!) So what's required is to develop a conscious awareness of our thoughts, emotions, and actions.
Have you been struggling with success? Do you feel like you can't just move forward with your goals or that things or people aren't moving with you? If you do, then take a step back and think. Evaluate what your goals are and what they mean to you. What were the efforts you made that are taking you towards your ambitions? And what actions are taking you away from your ambitions? Is anything or anyone hindering your success? Can you make better decisions in the future? What can you do to remove obstacles and improve your chances of success?
When we finally understand that we are in control of our own success, we will be set free from all limitations! By developing clarity and insight about the outcomes we want to create, and the awareness for potential setbacks, we can stop the self-sabotage and focus our energies on working toward new goals that we will fully support in every way. We will then look back one day and see that instead of being our own worst saboteur, we have become our best supporter.
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